Sometimes A Pillow and His Voice Will Just Have to Do

photo by Irving Penn

I'm not going to be indirect anymore, I miss the love of my life, and when he calls to wake me up every morning, this is exactly what I do to pretend he's actually there.

For My BestFriends - Because I Want You All To Be As Happy As I Am

I found this while looking up love quotes and realized it's the perfect description of what/who makes me so happy:

"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, "thats her"....

-Unknown

Dinner Date Love Etiquette

David Bowie and Iman courtesy of bet.com

In the Sex and the City episode "Great Sexpectations" Carrie mentions the phrase, "We're the couple you want to be!" This photograph of Bowie and Iman is the embodiment of that phrase. Need I even explain the body language and facial expressions? Always enjoy yourself with the love of your life and don't forget to hold your wife!

Small But Important Details

image courtesy of goodhousekeeping.com

Sometimes boyfriends do little things that mean a lot, especially to the person who loves them. One such thing includes folding her underwear into cute little stacks for her after they do laundry together.

The Goal: Get Past the '7 Year Itch'

From The Sunday Times
January 4, 2009
Scientists discover true love
John Harlow and Brendan Montague


SCIENTISTS have discovered true love. Brain scans have proved that a small number of couples can respond with as much passion after 20 years as most people exhibit only in the first flush of love.
The findings overturn the conventional view that love and sexual desire peak at the start of a relationship and then decline as the years pass.
A team from Stony Brook University in New York scanned the brains of couples who had been together for 20 years and compared them with those of new lovers. They found that about one in 10 of the mature couples exhibited the same chemical reactions when shown photographs of their loved ones as people commonly do in the early stages of a relationship.
Previous research suggested that the first stages of romantic love, a rollercoaster ride of mood swings and obsessions that psychologists call limerence, start to fade within 15 months. After 10 years the chemical tide has ebbed away.
The scans of some of the long-term couples, however, revealed that elements of limerence mature, enabling them to enjoy what a new report calls “intensive companionship and sexual liveliness”.
The researchers nicknamed the couples “swans” because they have similar mental “love maps” to animals that mate for life such as swans, voles and grey foxes.
The reactions of the swans to pictures of their beloved were identified on MRI brain scans as a burst of pleasure-producing dopamine more commonly seen in couples who are gripped in the first flush of lust.
“The findings go against the traditional view of romance – that it drops off sharply in the first decade – but we are sure it’s real,” said Arthur Aron, a psychologist at Stony Brook.
Previous research had laid out the “fracture points” in relationships as 12-15 months, three years and the infamous seven-year itch.
Aron said when he first interviewed people claiming they were still in love after an average of 21 years he thought they were fooling themselves: “But this is what the brain scans tell us and people can’t fake that.”
One pair of Aron’s swans are Billy and Michelle Jordon who, 18 years after they met, still make their friends envious. The couple, who live in Newport Beach, California, hold hands all the time. “It comes very naturally,” said Michelle, 59.
Lisa Baber, 40, and her husband David, 46, from Bristol, say they still feel the same frisson as when they got together 17 years ago.
“He was crazy and so exciting, he whisked me off my feet,” said Lisa. “That excitement is very much alive. We make sure our lives are always changing.”
Other couples who have kept their passion include Tony and Cherie Blair and Michael and Shakira Caine. Michael Howard, the former Tory leader, and his wife Sandra have been together for more than 30 years.
Aron said he and his wife Elaine, both 64, have a strong relationship but were a little jealous of the swans. “Their relationships are intense and sexually active, too, without many of the downsides of first love,” he said last week.

Holding Hands is One of the Best Displays of Affection

The other day, Keira Knightley and Rupert Fiend (her boyfriend) walked by me and they were not holding hands. It got me thinking, what does that mean about their relationship? There are those old couples who never let go of one another. That is romantic. If you love your girlfriend, always hold her hand! And like the otters, if she lets go, find her and hold her tighter.

A Real Man...

is able to smile at the girl he loves and say hi baby, immediately after he has just finished chasing someone who just stole his bike.

My man is fucking amazing.